Here's the final part of our look at non-verbal learning disabilities.  This is a terrific article I found on the Canadian Family website about two families and their journeys with NVLD kids.
Rhonda
Your child is intelligent and articulate but struggling to keep up in the classroom and schoolyard. She may have a learning disability you've probably never heard of.
February 16th, 2007
By Jonathan Burkinshaw
Cheryl Pidgeon had been a teacher for 20 years, but when  her bright, articulate daughter started school and immediately began having  problems, even Cheryl’s broad experience could not tell her what was wrong.  “Leah was unable to understand and follow her teacher’s instructions and so she  had difficulty doing her homework. She had problems with writing assignments and  struggled in math,” Cheryl says. In the schoolyard, Leah would miss various  social cues. As a result, she tended not to get involved in group activities;  instead, she would hang back watching and imitating other children’s play.
By the time Leah  reached Grade 2, the situation had worsened to the point that the Waterloo, Ont., mom knew she had to seek help  for her daughter. So five years ago, Cheryl took Leah for a private  psychological assessment and learned that her daughter had non-verbal learning  disorder (NLD), something Cheryl had never heard of.
The NLD syndrome  involves a cluster of neuropsychological, emotional, social and academic  characteristics that reflect a deficiency in non-verbal reasoning. While possessing  advanced speaking and reading skills and often excelling at tasks requiring rote  memorization, children with NLD typically have poor organizational and problem-solving  competency. Their mathematical reasoning ability is weak and their visual-spatial  and fine motor skills are underdeveloped. These children also have difficulty  comprehending and responding to the nuances of body language and vocal tone and  inflection. Often the point of schoolyard banter and teasing is completely lost  on them and so they get ostracized by their peers for being “out to lunch.”
NLD kids may also have  trouble telling time, colouring maps, deciphering graphs, keeping their place  on the page while reading, and understanding the streetwise humour and visual  cues of cartoon strips. They may find it hard to pay attention in class,  organize their desks and essays, understand teachers’ instructions and, later, to  take notes in university lectures. William MacDonald (a pseudonym) was  diagnosed with NLD when his suffering at the hands of bullies escalated to the point  that he became physically ill upon entering the school building. He also began expressing  thoughts of suicide. “It was this that made us seek professional help,” says his  mother, Brenda, of Waterloo,  Ont.
“The new environment  faces and expectations that William encountered in Grade 7 made him fall  apart,” she says. “His stress, anxiety and insecurity only led to further abuse  at the hands of bullies.”
A hospital  psychiatrist recognized that William was suffering from NLD, which helped  explain both the boy’s social difficulties and his academic struggles. “We now  understood why he was unable to pick up the social cues that others learn  naturally,” says his mother. “He was always a big talker with an impressive  vocabulary—we joked that his first word as a baby was ‘actually’— but he had a  terrible time getting his thoughts and knowledge down on paper.”
Almost two years after  his diagnosis, William’s spelling and writing skills remain at an early  elementary-grade level. The 14- year-old also has the organizational problems so  typical of the syndrome: so far this year, he’s lost two watches and six pairs  of gym shorts! Needless to say, even with good verbal skills, the estimated 1%  of children with NLD find school very difficult, especially as the rote  learning of the early grades begins to give way to the more complex reasoning  demanded in later elementary school. To make matters worse, teachers and  psychologists are often unaware of the disorder and hence unable to recognize  its symptoms. “NLD is the new learning disability on the block, so some  teachers ask, ‘Is it really real, or is it just something someone has come up  with to complicate our lives?” says Cheryl. She has since founded a support  group in Kitchener  for parent of kids with NLD.
William’s mother, Brenda,  found that same lack of awareness among the professionals she approached for  help. “Many psychologists were ignorant or skeptical of NLD. Our local learning  disability association had few resources on the syndrome. Most of the  information I found came from my own research and from other parents I  connected with on the internet.”
Diagnosis is often  made more difficult because an affected child’s NLD is frequently masked by  superb verbal skills or general intelligence. As a result, academic failures and  social awkwardness are moralistically attributed to a poor work ethic or  willful acting up. William, for example, was accused of being “lazy and  pampered” because of his disorganization and writing difficulties.
NLD is often  misdiagnosed as attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) or Asperger’s  syndrome, both of which share many of the same symptoms. A diagnosis of ADHD is  ruled out if the child receives standard medical treatment for ADHD but still  shows NLD-like problems. And although a child may have only a minor deficit in  non-verbal skills, an attention problem can exacerbate it to the point that it  resembles full-blown NLD.
Distinguishing NLD  from Asperger’s is more difficult; in fact, many experts place the two  conditions close together on a spectrum and can’t agree where one ends and the  other begins. Generally speaking, however, those with Asperger’s are likelier to  display severe social impairment but do his school day to organize his work.  And he has frequent sessions with the school counsellor to discuss his stress.  With these accommodations, his progress has been excellent. The teenager  attends a social skills training program that teaches strategies for dealing  with peers. Although he still sometimes misses his friends’ sarcasm or innuendo,  he can now join in the laughter and ask to be let in on the joke. “Life is good  right now,” says Brenda.
Leah, now entering  Grade 8, has made “fabulous progress,” says her relieved mom—thanks to such  accommodations as getting copies of notes from the teacher instead of taking  them from the blackboard. Leah dictates her essays to a parent instead of  writing them out herself. “With the right management strategies, kids with NLD  can be very successful,” Cheryl says.
If those are the  remedies, what are the causes? Rourke, who has researched the disorder since  the late 1960s, says the neurological problem behind NLD is a deficit in the  brain’s white matter, which consists of nerve cells covered in a white myelin  sheath and connects different parts of the nervous system. Damage to the brain  from trauma and toxins, as well as neurological conditions such as multiple  sclerosis, can lead to white-matter deficits and NLD symptoms.
It is often difficult,  however, to determine what caused any particular case. For William his birth 10  weeks early and the brain damage suffered shortly afterwards were likely the  major factors.
As Leah’s mother  laments, the lack of NLD awareness among educators compounds the academic and  social difficulties of undiagnosed kids. Even those who are successfully  diagnosed must cope with what Rourke brands as the abysmal quality and  availability of management resources in Canada. “NLD is a really  devastating situation, especially if it goes untreated much past the age of 7  or 8,” he says. His best advice to concerned parents is to consult a clinical  neuropsychologist specializing in children, as this is the professional  optimally equipped to make a diagnosis and suggest management options.